Robert Frost uses this in the poem Home Burial effectively.
Amy on the other hand is mortified by the constant reminder of the graves. Let me into your grief. Amy is implied to be a foreigner, and thus she is not as intimately familiar with death as her husband.
The poem, "Home Burial", is a clear example of how the couple could not recover from the loss of their child due to the lack of communication.
The poem is framed in the form of a deeply emotional dialogue between husband and wife over the coldness of their marriage in the wake of the death of their young son. First tell me that. The rural New England setting is important, because the tradition of home burial is what initially exposes the differences between Amy and the husband.
Home Burial is perhaps the most intense of Frost's dramatic dialogues dramatic as Chekhov and Sherwood Anderson were, with gesture, movement, tone of voice, and "sentencing" the instruments of the tragedy.
As a farmer, the husband is more accepting of the natural cycle of life and death in general, but also chooses to grieve in a more physical manner: by digging the grave for his child.